For my graduation, AM had shown up a day or two early, and we decided that instead, she and I wanted to live together. After talking it over with my dad, he thought AM would be a better choice because SM had either just started a job, or was having issues with her job, but something about it wasn't stable. I kept putting off telling her because I knew it would upset her, and ended up doing it the night before she left.
I was right. She was super upset, and never forgave me or AM. She had every right to be upset. I know I would have been upset too. AM and I went on with our plans hoping to resolve it with SM later. While we tried, SM didn't really feel like cooperating. AM and I found an apartment really close to the school. She and I became even closer, and SM still refused to forgive us.
(We liked to play dress up, Shush)
She did try though. I asked her if she wanted to go with me to my great uncle's funeral across the state, and she came on the condition that I would party with her for a night when we got back. She changed her mind when we got back though, and said she didn't want to be friends. I thought we were doing really well on the trip, but I guess not. She never gave me a reason why.
It didn't occur to me until much later that the three of us could have EASILY moved in together. I guess it didn't occur to AM either, or if it did, she never said anything. Because of that little oversight, we lost one of our best friends. SM now lives in California and lives a completely different lifestyle than the rest of us. I can't believe how much she has changed. She seems happy though, and that's all that really matters I guess.
While AM and I were attempting to go to MSU, (we both dropped out) MM was going to school in Helena, and would stop by to stay the night or just for the day while she was on her way to see her parents. So we were still able to see her often enough.
I met a boy online, and for Christmas he came to visit me. Shortly after visiting, he moved in with me and AM. I was pretty selfish. It didn't occur to me to ask her if she was okay with it until he was already driving with all his stuff. I don't think she was, but she's not really one to say so, and so she said it was fine. The next fall, she moved into a house that her parent's owned and took my step-dad's black labrador since they couldn't keep him. They were moving to an apartment in another city that didn't allow dogs.
The following summer, Steve and I moved to a new apartment and got our deposit back. And I kind of screwed up again. At the time, I felt like AM shouldn't get back her half of the deposit, because AM just moved out. Getting our deposit back depended on the state of our apartment when we moved out, and our managers were uber picky. She hadn't helped us clean to make the entire apartment spotless. I realize now though, that I should have just given it to her since she did pay it.
That didn't end our friendship, but it did put a lot of distance between us. We stopped seeing each other for a while, and three months later, Steve and I moved to South Dakota. A few months after that, AM and I finally started texting again, but we haven't spoken on the phone for over 3 years. However, when we went to Montana this last summer, she did hang out with us for a day. I think that helped a lot. We talk more now than we were before. I think more time together would have really helped. However, I'm hoping that with the video chatting that AM, MM and I are going to start, we'll be closer again. AM and MM too, since I noticed they don't talk much either.
They've been my best friends since I was 11 years old, and after 12 years, I don't want to lose them.
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