Women

"Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood."

-Oscar Wilde

It's my new cover for my Nook Tablet. Bright pink, too! If Steve read more, I would have gotten a more gender neutral color... but he doesn't. If he ever takes it anywhere, he can take the cover off. Or you know, man up and rock the pink! Hahaha

Irreconcilable Differences

What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.

-George Levinger

Many divorces state irreconcilable differences as the reason for their divorce. I'm not sure I understand how they got to that point, unless they rushed the marriage in Vegas or something. You should always ALWAYS discuss the big things with your partner before you get married - children, religion, money, politics, morals and values, and so on.

Divorce has never been an option for me. So I made sure that Steve and I were compatible. We're not 100% compatible, and we don't see eye to eye on everything, but we know how to compromise. I'm pretty sure it's impossible to be 100% compatible anyway, and if it is possible... how boring!

I like that we're different enough to keep things interesting. He always wants to try new things - food, places, etc. - and I almost never want to. He brings it out in me and I've discovered a lot of new things to like.

He's WAY laid back and chill about everything. I worry about everything. While I bring the realism out in him, he brings out the optimism in me.

Of course, there are some things that one of us has to cave completely. Him joining the Air Force is one. I don't want him to join. Period. But, it's what he wants to do and it will benefit our family in the long run. So I caved. When I have a child, I refuse to breast feed. His mother drilled it into him that there should be no other way. Well I disagree. It's my body. I have the say, and he's conceded to it.

So when it comes to major things like that, and we can't make a compromise, we weigh the pros and cons and come to a decision even if it takes months to make that decision.

I think a lot of the "irreconcilable differences" comes from stubbornness, and always being right, always being in control. Once stubbornness comes into play, trust and respect start to fall apart. If only those people could learn to let go and give in once in awhile.

Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

- Marianne Williamson

How lucky am I?

My favorite part of the day, for sure, is crawling into bed with my husband. I love that he is there every single night. I went to bed rather annoyed with him a few nights ago, but then I randomly thought about all the women who were lonely at that very moment.

Lonely women either because they were single, or because their husband was away on business, or on a tour overseas. Lonely for any number of reasons, really. That's when Steve wrapped his arm around me, and I just smiled. How lucky am I that I get to sleep in the same bed as my husband every night? No matter how annoying? :)

"What a happy and holy fashion it is that those who love

one another should rest on the same pillow."

~Nathaniel Hawthorne