Day 9: Past and Present Friends

Someone You Didn't Want To Let Go, But Just Drifted

I had to think about this one, because there are a lot of people that I have drifted away from. Most of them unintentionally. I'm a military brat. In my short life with my dad, he moved 4 times. My birth mom moved twice. Really, it wasn't that often, but still enough. Since going out into the world on my own, I have lived in 3 different states.

My best friends in Idaho from when I was younger were AT, RM and RJ. AT and RM, I'm still in semi-contact with through Facebook. RJ and I haven't spoken since I was eleven. We had a huge fight, and I had decided to live with my birth mom in Montana. So I never saw her again.

My best friends in Montana from middle school were AM, MM and SM (none of them are related). AM and I are distant. We're friends, but we're not nearly as close as we used to be. MM and I have basically stayed the same through all our differences. I still consider her my best friend. SM's now in California somewhere, and we don't have much in common these days.

My best friends in Utah from high school were CC and AG. I've always felt like a third wheel with them. They were best friends before I moved there to live with my dad. Still, they've been great friends. Although currently, I think AG and I are just a little closer than we used to be, while the opposite is true with CC. It happens and is certainly fixable. The rest of my friends that I made in Utah... we're connected through Facebook, but not really friends anymore. While I'd like to see them again, I really don't think we'd have much to talk about.

Then I moved back to Montana where I met SH and CL. SH is also another that I still consider a best friend. In fact, she was my maid of honor. I can talk to her about anything, and she gets it. She usually knows what to say to make me feel better, and vice versa. She's mother to my "nephew" whom I adore. CL and I became super close, super fast. It was awesome. However, she didn't like my boyfriend (husband) and so we drifted. In her defense, Steve was pretty much a jerk to everyone except me back then.

My husband (boyfriend) and I later decided to move to South Dakota to be near his family. There, I met NB, TB, MMK, SJ, SJP, CG and ET. Now I'm not close with all of them, but I sure do miss them. Had we stayed, I'm sure I would have developed amazing friendships with these ladies. Maybe I still can with some of them, but I hope I never lose my NB or SJ

I guess I have a tendency to drift away from people as I move forward in life. Now that I'm older though, I plan to make an effort to not lose contact with those that are still in my life. Not only that, but keep the connection deeper than surface level. It'll be a challenge, but I'm willing to do take it on.